Fuck Her Smarter, Not Harder.

As a man who is currently in a long-distance relationship, (as I'm sure some of you are as well) I'll be the first to admit that it can suck. Hopefully you are doing it for a girl thats worth it - I know I am - and in which case you don't see her as regularly as you normally would.

This means that your normal sex life is interrupted. For well endowed men, this can bring about an additional problem.

She's too tight.

So I'm told by my sex-health educator friend, Lynn: "The vagina is a muscle, and it can be stretched but if its not worked "stretched" for a while it tightens up.” Pretty simple right? You’d think so, but even for someone like me, who knows this, and has plenty of experience dealing with this, it’s still hard to practice this, especially when you are caught up in the heat of the moment.

The last time I saw my girlfriend was a month and a half ago, I’ll be seeing her again in a week and absolutely cannot wait. Our last weekend together though was a great learning experience. When we had sex, I thought that I was going slow, and letting her get used to my size, but I still could have done a better job. We still had sex five times in one weekend, but she was still sore for a few days after, and our number could have been a lot higher if I would have controlled myself better, and if she would have prepared herself better.

In a recent text conversation with my girl, she said “For the first two or three times go easy on me.” Her plea inspired me to come up with a new plan that I’ll treat as an experiment for our next meet up in seven days.

I asked her to start using her dildo on a more regular basis. With the idea of her starting to exercise her muscle and prepare it for action. (Plus, to me the idea of her fucking herself with her dildo, and massaging her clit with her vibrator, is a huge turn on.) On my end, I will treat the first few days together as a test of my sexual patience.

We always make sure she cums first, that’s a given. Then I start out going slow before I truly enter her.

This time, I’m going try to go extra extra slow. I’m going to inch myself into her slower than ever, I’ll push in, then let her relax as she adjusts to my size, then push more, then pause. I’m going to see just how long I can stretch this out for.

Usually when I try this, she gets turned on by the tease. The more I try to limit how much I slide in, the more she tries to push me deeper. The normal end result is by the time I make my first real thrust, she explodes in an orgasm. This is great, but the downside I’ve noticed when she cums, is the momentum we’re building is now lost as she convulses all over my dick.

My goal, is to coordinate the two of us to have a mutual orgasm without me ever fully penetrating her, if she gets close before I’m ready, I’ll pull out and let her cool off.

Normally I see my girl having an orgasm as me scoring points, the more points the better right? I don’t know, and that’s why I’m determined to find out.

The bottom line boys: This year, go easy on your girl for Christmas. It might just work out for the best.