When I fuck my girlfriend deep, she clicks.

A conversation I had today with a great friend of mine inspired me to revisit this site.

My former roommate, and good friend - I’ll call her Lynn - and I had a wonderful exchange today about the topic of large penises, in particular, my large penis. She is a Sex Health Professional working for a prestigious university, and I recently decided to open up to her about an issue that I just could not seem to find the answer to.

What’s the issue: When I fuck my girlfriend deep, she clicks.

Here is what happens, when we are having the sexual “Perfect-Storm”. Which means, I’m following the advice I give on here; make sure she is warmed up, lubed up, and relaxed. I’ve started slow and gentle, and now she is ready and asking for every inch I have, she’s “Tented”, and I’m having a “Good Day”, meaning I’m extra hard and long.

So she lets me go balls deep, like really damn darn deep, like I can’t go any deeper, I hit this point, where she clicks. It doesn’t come with an extra sensation of pain or pleasure. The only sound I can compare it to is when you crack your knuckles.

I was determined to find out what was going on.

I talked to Lynn at length about this. It was our first conversation where we were openly acknowledging that I have a large sized penis which was weird for me, but she is a professional. She thought about it, and didn’t have the answer, nor had ever heard of this issue. She was intrigued and was determined to find the answer.

She brought it to the head of the University Sex Health department, a woman with advanced degrees and years of experience in sex health and she had no answers. They both then went to a seasoned Gyno, a woman who has seen more pussies than… well… she’s seen a lot of them. The end result Lynn said, “You’ve stumped us all”



Now this issue isn’t necessarily a problem. It doesn’t seem to cause her any pain or pleasure, it just happens. The doctor didn’t seem too worried about it, but said if her condition changes - swelling, residual pain, hematoma, bleeding - that I should bring her in.

Back in April, I posted a question on goaskalice.com - a wonderful site about sex health and issues, and never heard a response. They must not have known, and the panel of Sexperts today didn’t seem to know either. I’ll just have to let it rest for today.

I don’t have all the answers, but I’m sure that I’m not the only well-endowed man who has see this issue before. I don’t have an explanation, nor do I have any powerful insight. Today I simply document the events, and what I’ve learned. I’ll probably continue to look into this in the future.

Fuck Her Smarter, Not Harder.

As a man who is currently in a long-distance relationship, (as I'm sure some of you are as well) I'll be the first to admit that it can suck. Hopefully you are doing it for a girl thats worth it - I know I am - and in which case you don't see her as regularly as you normally would.

This means that your normal sex life is interrupted. For well endowed men, this can bring about an additional problem.

She's too tight.

So I'm told by my sex-health educator friend, Lynn: "The vagina is a muscle, and it can be stretched but if its not worked "stretched" for a while it tightens up.” Pretty simple right? You’d think so, but even for someone like me, who knows this, and has plenty of experience dealing with this, it’s still hard to practice this, especially when you are caught up in the heat of the moment.

The last time I saw my girlfriend was a month and a half ago, I’ll be seeing her again in a week and absolutely cannot wait. Our last weekend together though was a great learning experience. When we had sex, I thought that I was going slow, and letting her get used to my size, but I still could have done a better job. We still had sex five times in one weekend, but she was still sore for a few days after, and our number could have been a lot higher if I would have controlled myself better, and if she would have prepared herself better.

In a recent text conversation with my girl, she said “For the first two or three times go easy on me.” Her plea inspired me to come up with a new plan that I’ll treat as an experiment for our next meet up in seven days.

I asked her to start using her dildo on a more regular basis. With the idea of her starting to exercise her muscle and prepare it for action. (Plus, to me the idea of her fucking herself with her dildo, and massaging her clit with her vibrator, is a huge turn on.) On my end, I will treat the first few days together as a test of my sexual patience.

We always make sure she cums first, that’s a given. Then I start out going slow before I truly enter her.

This time, I’m going try to go extra extra slow. I’m going to inch myself into her slower than ever, I’ll push in, then let her relax as she adjusts to my size, then push more, then pause. I’m going to see just how long I can stretch this out for.

Usually when I try this, she gets turned on by the tease. The more I try to limit how much I slide in, the more she tries to push me deeper. The normal end result is by the time I make my first real thrust, she explodes in an orgasm. This is great, but the downside I’ve noticed when she cums, is the momentum we’re building is now lost as she convulses all over my dick.

My goal, is to coordinate the two of us to have a mutual orgasm without me ever fully penetrating her, if she gets close before I’m ready, I’ll pull out and let her cool off.

Normally I see my girl having an orgasm as me scoring points, the more points the better right? I don’t know, and that’s why I’m determined to find out.

The bottom line boys: This year, go easy on your girl for Christmas. It might just work out for the best.

The "Vaginal Tenting" Effect

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Playing With & Eating Pussy The Right Way

Dear Gentlemen,
This is a very straightforward and easy to understand video about how to please a woman with your fingers and with your mouth. I recommend this to every straight man.

Even if you think you are a pro already, I promise you that you will benefit, and Your Woman will Thank You Later. Besides, its also just sexy to watch anyways.

Lasting Too Long?

Dear LargeInLife,
I have only recently started having sex with my girlfriend (or soon to be) and things seem to be going smoothly. However, I have come across an issue I never even imagined could be considered a problem. Simply put, I seem to last too long in bed, or can't actually ejaculate without doing it myself. She put it best:

"You have the problem everybody else wants"

Any decent person during sex wants to make it as good for the other as possible, and if you feel like they weren't satisfied you feel like you under perform, which hits confidence. While I have persuaded this girl that it is not her, it is very much my own issue, I cannot help but feel like she still feels inadequate almost. This is very frustrating for me and puts me off the idea of having sex quite a bit, even though I do enjoy it and by no means do I mind finishing myself whenever were done.

I always imagined my first time lasting 10 mins at best, not an hour and half until she climaxed 3 times and I had to finish myself off lol.

What seems to happen is when the foreskin drags back the head becomes numb as it is so sensitive. Sex feels amazing at first but I lose the good feeling as I go on, which is why I believe it goes "numb". I'm not sure what I should do next, it isn't really an issue in the relationship at the moment, but any way to overcome this without counselling would be nice.

Thanks in advance,
Danny
18 yrs. UK (7" Length x 5.5" Girth)

Danny,
This is a tough problem, and in a lot of ways, it might be more difficult to fix this type of problem than it would be for a man who cums too quickly who is trying to last longer. I've suffered from this problem also in the past, and the first thing I would remind you of is this: "The mind is the largest sex organ in the body."


You mentioned that this was your first time, and I will tell you that in my opinion most sexual problems (non health related) are rooted psychologically. I'm not saying you're crazy, or need therapy. I'm saying that I'll bet when you focus on your mental game, you will find the solution to your problem.

This problem can and will be solved, you will have do do some work on your own, and if you can open up to your girlfriend and let her be involved, you will probably:
A. Find your solution faster, and
B. Become closer with your GF through the process, and
C. Improve your sex life, so win-win.

So lets tackle this problem with a one-two punch, there is the physiological and the psychological:

First the physiological side.

You mentioned that you can get yourself off on your own, so we know you are capable of achieving an orgasm. So that's a problem we don't have to worry about, because I'm sure there are men out there that can't.

"Sex feels amazing at first but I lose that good feeling as I go on." This can happen, and has happened to me many times. Pay attention to the tools you are using in bed, my condom of choice, and what I seriously recommend "Trojan Magnum Ecstacy" they are my personal favorite, and for me are the closest thing to not wearing a condom. They are designed to have a more personal and sensitive feel, which might help you. Also, after having sex for an extended period of time, you mention loosing that good feeling. That good feeling you are talking about could be the initial wetness of her pussy when you first start having sex. Sometimes women don't stay that wet continuously, so you can add some spit, or some lube (if you are using it with a condom, use water based lube). When I'm having sex for a long time, and I start to lose some sensitivity, I always add lube.

When you have sex is it always in the bedroom? Is it always in the same position? Is it always at the same time of day? The phrase, "Variety is the spice of life." comes to mind.

My guess is that you are being too repetitive. If you keep doing it the same way over and over, and you go numb, you're probably not going to cum from more of the same. Try different positions, try having her grab your balls, try talking dirty, try some sexy bedroom games, try having her suck your dick, or try titty fucking her. Try fucking her against the window, in the backseat, on the bathroom sink, or in a public place. These are some easy ways you can mix things up and it may jolt your sex life in a positive way.

Are you taking any medications? If so, this can effect you sexually. Every medication has a different set of side effects, so if you are taking meds, look into the side effects, and talk to your doctor. Because I'm not educated to prescribe advice on that.

I assume that you masturbate on your own also, pay close attention to your masturbation habits. This is how you are getting off on your own, and its important. How are you usually getting off? What is your technique? How tight is your grip? Are you watching porn? If yes, what do you find yourself focusing on when you climax?

If you masturbate very often, you may be de-sensitizing your penis and also conditioning yourself to only climax when its just you and your hand. For some people, masturbating less often will do the trick and solve the problem. For some it wont. I think its worth exploring, because if you start conditioning yourself to climax only when you are having sex, you will eventually find it much easier to climax with sex.

Now this issue is not a specifically "Well-Endowed-Only" problem. You did mention that you have a large sized penis, and this does have an effect on things too. In my personal experience, when I am having sex with my girlfriend, after she has gotten off a few times, and I'm still going. Having a large sized penis limits the amount of time that she will be able to accommodate me. After she has cum a few times, she might tell you that you are "rubbing her raw" or I can't tell you how many times I've been going and she says, "Ok you're just too big, I have to stop."

This can happen, and you might experience this in the future. Which might make it more challenging for you when you are trying to get used to climaxing from sex. My advice, don't feel any extra pressure to make yourself cum. The more pressure you put on, the more difficult it will be for you to enjoy yourself. Which leads me to my next point, tackling this issue from


The psychological side.

Ok, remember when I said that "The mind is the largest sexual organ in the body" its true. Now you have to dig a little deeper. The first question to ask yourself: Is there some major stress, or conflict, or dilemma you are currently dealing with? Now you have to really look inward on this one, because you could have a problem that might not seem like a big deal on the surface, but possibly you have repressed your feelings about it, and its weighing heavily on your subconscious.

I'm not trying to spit psychobabble at you, so don't get scared off right away. If you have a personal conflict or major stress in your life, it can have strange effects on the body. I once had some serious issues with my dad that I needed to resolve, and I was impotent for a month at age 19. I resolved the issues, and have not had a problem ever since, I'm 23 now.

If you are dealing with something heavy, this could contribute to your sex life. I would recommend trying to confront and resolve the issue, if you feel like there is one. (You would probably know it if there was one)

"Any decent person during sex wants to make it as good for the other as possible, and if you feel like they weren't satisfied you feel like you under perform, which hits confidence. While I have persuaded this girl that it is not her, it is very much my own issue, I cannot help but feel like she still feels inadequate almost."

Reading this part confirms it to me that you will be an amazing lover. One of the most important parts to amazing sex is to pay close attention to your partner and what they like, need, etc. You got that, and all of your partners will love and appreciate you for that. Now the hard part for guys like you.

You have to focus on you.

You are obviously doing something right, you are getting her off multiple times. Most guys don't even know how to do that, if you don't believe me. Go ask 10 of your girlfriends how many guys have ever been able to get them off. You will be surprised as to how low that number really is.

Remember when I told you to pay close attention to your masturbation habits. Think about what it is you are frequently focusing on when you hit your climax, are you staring at tits, are you thinking about a bj, are you imagining fucking a sheep. Whatever it is, its important and will play a big role in helping you get off from sex with your GF (If your fantasy involves adolescent kids-see a therapist right away)

Anyways, bring your attention to what it is that pushes you over the edge and makes you climax. This might be the key to help you get off. You have to capitalize on whatever it is that gets you off because thats personal to you. If you only imagine BJ's when you climax, then of course you wouldn't be as turned on from fucking. This is also where having involvement and willing participation from your Girlfriend is essential.

You have to tune in to what it is that gets you off, it could be things you hear, see, touch, smell, or think about. If the mental image of a locomotive rushing through a tunnel gets you off, so be it.

Here is a personal example. I am a total breast man. I love boobs, and I'm totally aroused by them, and I always stare at pictures of my girlfriends amazing tits when I masturbate. She knows how much I love her tits, and she also knows how much they arouse me. Secondly, I love many sexual positions, especially doggy style, and me being on top of her with her legs up at her shoulders. But, its hard for me to cum when I am the one doing most of the physical work. Thirdly, I love deep penetration, and that helps me get off also. And fourthly, I love it when my girlfriend tells me how big my dick is and how much it fills her, she knows that hearing those words really arouses me.

So when it comes time for me to get off, my girlfriend knows how to do it. She gets on top of me, this puts her tits directly in front of my face, since she's on top she's the one doing most of the physical work, and this position allows for deep penetration, and she lets me squeeze and suck on her tits as she tells me how she loves my big cock. This is the formula for me to get off, and it took me a long time to learn just what I like, but now we know, it works 9/10 times.

Now you have to relax, let your mind be free, and focus on enjoying the sex. Its a lot easier said then done to let go of your concerns, and all the pressure you feel, but it is doable. You just have to train yourself, and realize that sex is also about you too. The goal here is to achieve MUTUALLY ENJOYABLE sex.

With a bit of work, optimism, and a bit of patience, you are on your track to achieving your goals. I have no worries that you won't figure it out.

I hope this is helpful.

Peace & Love

- LargeInLife

How Do I Measure Up?

How do we define what is a "BIG" penis? If you ask ten people you will probably get ten different answers. My answer is "It Depends", not very helpful is it?

On Mr. Average (An honest and seemingly straightforward site about what the average penis is) they tell you how to measure your penis. You can measure your penis 100 different ways, and it will give you different results. Depending on how I measure my penis, my length can fluctuate p to a whole inch.So since this is my blog, and its all about Large Penises, I decided I should walk the walk. I took it upon myself today to take my own measurements by Mr. Averages standards. Here are my results

LargeInLife Penis Size Stats:
Length: 8.1 Inches
Girth: 5.8 Inches

I do have to admit that today's measurements were good. My penis is not always this size. Sometimes on an off day I'm about 7", sometimes I'm not as girthy, but there have been a few memorable occasions where I've been slightly bigger (I'm sure you have erections you remember like that also) We can't define what's big unless we know what average is. If you look around the web you will see many different sites claim what "Average" is. When you look, make sure you are not looking on a site that is selling penis growing products, these sites are just trying to sell a product and will not have the answers you are looking for.

LifeStyles Condoms has conducted research into the average length and circumference of the erect penis during Spring Break in Cancun and found that the average penis length is 5.877 inches, with the majority ranging between 5.5 inches and 6.3 inches. The average girth is 4.972 inches, with the majority ranging between 4.7 inches and 5.1 inches.

I found this data at Mr.Average

So if we say that the average penis is 5.8" I think that's a fair assumption. We will probably never really know the actual scientific truth, but this should be close enough. Now back to what makes a man considered "Big".

How "Big" a man's penis is is relative to the size of the woman's vagina. Some women have larger and smaller vaginas. Imagine a very petite, small-vagina'd woman, to her a penis that is 5.8" might be huge, even painful. To a woman with a much larger vagina, it might feel like nothing's even there. There is also the research that I agree with that says when a woman becomes aroused, her vagina has a "Tented" effect, and will swell and grow to accommodate a larger sized penis. This article, Larger Penises Cause More Vaginal Satisfaction is where I found this information.

In my opinion, I would say that you have a "Big" dick if you are longer than 6.5 Inches. This means that you are larger than 95.6% of all other men according to this chart to the right by Mr. Average.

I did just start this blog yesterday. So far, I'm pretty sure that no one has visited, but I'm optimistic for the future. I hope that my blog will be useful to men and couples in the future, and you might ask why I'm writing about "How Do I Measure Up?" and that's a good question.

I'm writing about this because I know that this is important to men. We are infatuated with the size of our penises, and that's the way we are born. This blog is targeted to the men who have large penises, and that is who I am writing for. I have found all of my knowledge about the matter through my experience and my research. Even thought my penis size is above average, as yours is too, I would have liked to know this information when I was younger. I would have been more confident about my size, more secure about what I have between my legs, and hopefully this will give my readers more confidence too.

I think it's safe to say that most men do wonder how their size compares to others. I have not, nor do I plan on ever comparing my erect dick to that of my friends. But there is a part of every guy that wants to, just to see who's bigger. And especially for all of you who have to deal with those asshole guys who talk a lot of big game, and you know they are full of shit, this next part is for you.

There is a website, TheVisualizer.net where you can input the length and girth of your penis, and visually compare it to what the average size is, head to head (literally). So for all of the guys who have wanted to see how you compare to the average, this is the perfect place to check it out.

Here is a screen capture of my personal dimensions compared to the LifeStyles Condoms Average


So if you want to know if you have a "BIG" penis, See for yourself!
Just measure, and compare yourself to the average.

Peace & Love

- LargeInLife

My Long Path to Self Realization - Part 1

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Welcome & Hello

I will offer a little background on me and why I have decided to create this resource for couples.

I am a young professional in my mid twenties, I'm in love with my beautiful girlfriend, and yes - for those of you wondering - I am a Well-Endowed (straight) man.

The purpose of this blog is to provide helpful insight to couples who have trouble enjoying sex due to large-penis-size related issues.

I have decided to create this blog for four reasons:

1. I am offering this blog as an open forum for those who have large-penis-size related issues, a place to learn and to enlighten, with the end goal of allowing couples to maximize their sexual satisfaction.

2. I wish I would have had a more helpful and focused resource for sexual advice when I was younger and more sexually inexperienced. By sexual advice I mean, advice for well-endowed men and women with small vagina's who have trouble accommodating each other.

3. Not every man with a large-penis walks around thinking he is god. Many people do not understand that having a large-sized-penis can actually be a problem, and sometimes be an embarrassment for men. It can be very frustrating to go up to guy/girl friends and ask for advice.

4. Finally, this is a place where I will share stories of my personal encounters. I plan to use this blog as a way for me to vent my stories and personal issues, and use my encounters as ways to be more relatable to the readers.

This is not a place to brag about how big and how amazing your penis is. There are plenty of other places to do that.

But I will

I am not a doctor, counselor, sex health expert, or licensed to preach anything. My advice is simply just advice to be taken for consideration.

I am merely a well-endowed man, who has experienced and overcome - through numerous encounters, research, and patience - many of the common issues that men with large-sized-penises often face.

Also, my grammar, spelling, and choices of words will never be perfect. I was not an English major, and do not claim to be.

Peace & Love

- LargeInLife