I’m disappointed
in the well-endowed who think that having a big dick gives you an excuse to
be arrogant men, and arrogant lovers.
I stumbled
upon the “Sex Tips” area of TheFrisky today and found Rachel Kramer Bussel’s 2009
piece about her particularly negative sexual experiences with the overly well-endowed
men she’s experienced. The article – entitled “
Dealbreaker: Mr. Too Big” – goes
into detail about a few particular hung dudes and how bad the experiences were
for her. Then she gets to a point that particularly resonated with me:
“In general,
it seems like men who are overly endowed make for the more arrogant lovers.”
This is sad
and frustrating for me to read, I’ve read it by a variety of women on many different
articles, and I’ve heard this in person from close female friends.
It’s sad,
because whether it’s actually true or not, it doesn’t really matter, because
this is the perception that we – the well-endowed community – have created for
ourselves. This also frustrates me a great deal, because I believe that this is
a case of a few bad apples ruining it for the rest of us.
Having a large
penis is a blessing, yes we all know there are downsides as well, but there’s a
reason we say “He’s Blessed” when a man is well-endowed. If you have a big dick
and you know what you’re doing, sex can be a beautiful thing and while many
people may refuse to believe it, it’s possible to please a woman in ways that
are simply impossible for the other guys.
But guys,
having a big dick does not make you god. Having a big dick does not mean you
should be lazy in bed, and most importantly having a big dick does not give you
an excuse to be an arrogant asshole like Larry Hardin who wrote “
The 5 BestCompliments My Dick Has Ever Gotten”.
- Sidebar: Now I'm not saying you shouldn't have a fulfilling sex life that you are proud of. I'm also not saying that there isn't a time and a place to relish in your own sexual conquests. I mean, I admit I have this blog, and I've posted photos of myself on it, and I just wrote a whole article/erotic story about the best blowjob of my life, but this is my place to express myself sexually. And let's not forget that the primary purpose of this blog is to help well-endowed couples have more mutually beneficial sex. I've learned a lot over the years and I wish I would have known what I do now when I was a teenager and lost my virginity. Maybe that erotic story was more for my own benefit, but I'm ok with that, it turned me on to write it, and it turns me on to read it. I didn't write it to brag about my big dick, in fact, no one I know knows about this blog, and I intend to keep my identity a secret. So be proud of who you are, I'm just saying don't be an asshole about it.
Having a big
dick means that you need to have a higher sexual IQ than the other guys, it
means you need to know what the hell you’re doing because the bigger you are,
the higher the chances that you’ll cause a woman to tear, bleed, cry, etc.
Still don’t believe me? Do a little research and you’ll find an endless list of
articles and personal experiences by women who were traumatized by a bad experience
with a big dick.
And by the
way, causing a woman to tear, bleed, or cry is NOT a badge of honor. It does
NOT make you cool. The guys who actually buy into that shit are destined to be
reincarnated with a micro-penis.
Having a big
dick means you have a responsibility to know when and how to be gentle and
patient with her. Having a big dick means that sometimes you will probably
cause a woman pain and discomfort. I don’t need to go into the pros of having a
big dick because I’m not here to stroke your massive veiny ego’s today, this is
an article to tell you to get your shit together and be a man.
So please, to
all of my well-endowed readers, be confident, not cocky, and do us all a favor and let’s remind the world
that not ALL of us are arrogant lovers.
