Size Fluctuation

This is something I've thought about, and wanted to reflect on before and when going through some old photos I once took of myself I realized that this is a good opportunity to talk about erection size fluctuation.

Every guy knows that sometimes you get an erection, and "it's a good one" or maybe its not, and you feel let down, or maybe your partner feels let down, or worries that you're not aroused enough by them. I think this should be addressed simply, and I'm not going to get into too much science or stats like I sometimes do, and just speak off the cuff in my personal experience


The size of your erection varies every single time. Your penis size fluctuates constantly and it depends on many factors. You will never get the same measurement twice (scientifically speaking).

There are multiple factors that go into your erection size, such as: temperature of the room, state of your arousal, your stress level, your health level, circulation, mental state, air pressure (try getting a boner on a commercial airplane and you know what I mean) and the list goes on and on.

In my experience, sometimes I've had erections I wish I could photograph, and frame and mount to my wall, and sometimes I'm literally stunned and I say "really? that's it today?" (yes I'm totally putting myself out there) but guys, I'm here to tell you that this is normal. Not only normal, but something to be understanding of, and not worry about.

In an earlier post I gave the length of my penis as 8.1 inches, and later posted a photo where I'm holding a ruler and I'm over 8.5 inches. After going through some photos, I found a representation that proves in my opinion that my original 8.1 inch measurement was a safe base size to claim.

Here are some photos that represent my personal fluctuation in size. These photos were taken on different days.

As you can see, I fluctuated here by nearly an inch. That's a pretty big difference to be honest. And I'm certain (as one particular ex once told me) that I've hit nine inches more than once, and sometimes when I'm not 100% into it I'm probably seven inches, possibly less.

The penis is a spongy like object and the body is not a machine, it fluctuates as does anything in nature.

How To Have Sex When It's Just Too Big

It's hard to find practical and easy to follow advice on this subject, so I'm gonna take a stab at it.

I was looking up a Michael Scott quote and somehow came across this video, which reminded me why I created this blog and why I'm back writing again :)

 

"It's just too big..."

So where does a guy go for advice? After realizing that most of your guy friends can't relate, and most girl friends will probably just think you're trying to brag, you go on line to do the research.. I remember being a teenager with this problem and finding search results like this left and right:

This advice SUCKS in my opinion. But 9 our of 10 times, this is what you hear. "go slow, use lube, keep her warmed up, etc." blah blah blah. this is decent advice but its just not that helpful.

Guys think differently than women, you say "go slow" we think "how slow, what is slow, how long do I need to go slow for?"


So I came up with a recipe, a easy to follow plan that I'm confident will be more helpful..

Below is my plan for you, the guy with the big dick, and the girl who cried "it's just too big"...

We're going to make a timeline and work backwards, we're gonna "Tarantino" this bitch.

The Objective:
By about 9:30 you're going to be in the middle of great sex, and fully penetrating her (or at least very very deeply)

The Theme:
Ease Her Into It... (In all aspects)

So lets wind it back now...

7:15 - 8:00 pm

Help her unwind, de-stress, let her vent about the bitch she knows at work, share a glass of wine or two, try to minimize the distracting and stressful things, this time is about getting her mind to gently relax and slow down from her high pressure, fast-paced life.

8:00 pm

Tell her you just ran her a bath, but let her know whats ahead for her so she can get mentally prepared.. tell her that after the bath, you're going to fuck like bunnies, but you want her to relax first. Say it however seems natural, if it was me, and my girl and I were comfortable enough with each other I'd just say.. "Hey I just ran you a bubble bath, why don't you go relax for a bit and when you're done we're gonna play a little game where I see how many times I can get you off"

8:00 - 8:45 pm

She's easing herself into a relaxed state. You've already helped her mind to start de-stressing, now with the bath her body is going to catch up, and her mind will probably relax even more. The warm water from the bath will help stimulate her circulation, increase blood flow to her genitals, become aroused more quickly, and will help her orgasm more easily.

Women and orgasms are different than Men and orgasms. You have to understand that there are different contributing factors and every woman is different. I think its usually safe to say, that if a woman feels more sexy, she will act more sexual. Encourage her to do what makes her relax and feel sexy, maybe she needs to shave her legs, or paint her nails, believe me guys, even though some of it may not make sense to us, something as simple as her feeling fresh, clean, warm, and with freshly shaven legs might just be enough to make her feel sexier. And you definitely want her to feel sexy.

8:45 - 9:00 pm

Gently ease into some foreplay, foreplay concentrated on her. Start by kissing her passionately, running your hands up her body, sucking on her nipples, etc. then when the juices are starting to flow, gently progress to some gentle fingering, pussy licking, maybe let her use a vibrator on her clit if she likes that.


9:00 - 9:10 pm

Step on the gas, but don't floor it.
Foreplay with minor penetration.. MINOR.. I'm not talking about your dick.

Maybe slip a couple fingers in her pussy, hopefully she'll be ready for some harder pressure fingering, possibly a small size dildo or g-spot vibrator could help.

9:10 - 9:20 pm

Initial penetration sex

Ok now she should be very wett, and very turned on. Hopefully she's already had an orgasm, but if she's not a quick cummer, thats ok. Now you can start with some gentle penetration. Start out slow. Here's what I mean by slow, take one or two minutes and just rub the head of your dick on her pussy lips, this will drive her crazy and make her want more, start out in a position that allows more gentle penetration, like spooning, or a position where you have a lot of control of how deep you are in her. But this is where you have to utilize your own self control. I said slow, so I would try to spend the next 5 minutes just penetrating her with the head of your dick, the first two inches ONLY. This will be like a tantalizing game of torture for both of you, but it will also feel incredible if you GO SLOW. You're helping her to ease gently into this, she might feel like she's ready for you to ram it home, but wait. Because one thrust too hard too early and you can quickly kill the mood and regress.

9:20 - 9:30 pm

Half to Two-Thirds  penetration sex

You have to learn your limits, and know your dimensions. Learn what it feels like to only thrust slowly and with only about half of your dick. You want to slowly introduce your huge cock to her little pussy, and you start small and take baby steps. The number one problem that guys face here is that they just want to ram it in, and then boom, she's in tears and I know from personal experience what it feels like to make a girl cry during sex and its not fun.

9:30 pm - Finish

Full penetration sex

Ok if you have been paying attention, and following my guidelines you're in for a real treat.

Most girls literally have no clue just how much dick they are capable of handling. This is probably because most guys don't understand how a woman's vagina really works, nor do they have the patience to bring a woman to that place.

By this point, the stars should all be in alignment. She's literally spent about 35 minutes so far in pure bliss. She's SUPER aroused, and the best part hasn't even come yet. Consider everything up until now just foreplay. Because as I mentioned in my earlier post about the "Vaginal Tenting Effect" it takes a woman a little while to become fully aroused, and then stay aroused long enough for her insides to begin to elongate, and engorge and by now, she's ready for you buddy.

Again, ease into there. But don't be surprised if in the next few minutes you'll be pushing yourself in, and she'll just magically accept you, but this time not with wincing pain, and tears, or ripped vaginal walls, and trips to urgent care. This time she'll be ready. The pump has been primed. You should now be able to switch into positions that allow full penetration, and she'll probably love it. Don't be surprised if she starts orgasming as soon as you really get in there because now you're hitting her spots that are ready for you to hit, chances are, they've never been hit before and it's truly an amazing feeling.

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Now keep in mind these are suggestions. It's not an exact science, the times I mentioned are flexible, and every girl is different. Listen to her, and realize that you're the one thats shoving things inside of her, so be respectful, pay attention to her, and be patient.

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One final sidenote. LUBE. Use lube, it can really help, but its not entirely necessary. I recommend completely staying away from waterbased, it gets sticky and gross. I use silicone-based exclusively. Its more expensive but always smooth and silky, and it lasts. It's just a little harder to clean up, but its definitely worth it. Come to think of it I might have to do a post about that subject next..

Thought It Was About Time...

I have been asked for photos enough times to say "ah what the hell" so here are a few of me.

My Old School Tennis Shorts :)

 The Obligatory Ruler Shot

(Those looking closely will notice I'm bigger here than in my original post about my size, this was just one of those really "big and long" days)

Maybe the reason I got weird looks in the high school locker room...

Morning Wood

When I fuck my girlfriend deep, she clicks.

A conversation I had today with a great friend of mine inspired me to revisit this site.

My former roommate, and good friend - I’ll call her Lynn - and I had a wonderful exchange today about the topic of large penises, in particular, my large penis. She is a Sex Health Professional working for a prestigious university, and I recently decided to open up to her about an issue that I just could not seem to find the answer to.

What’s the issue: When I fuck my girlfriend deep, she clicks.

Here is what happens, when we are having the sexual “Perfect-Storm”. Which means, I’m following the advice I give on here; make sure she is warmed up, lubed up, and relaxed. I’ve started slow and gentle, and now she is ready and asking for every inch I have, she’s “Tented”, and I’m having a “Good Day”, meaning I’m extra hard and long.

So she lets me go balls deep, like really damn darn deep, like I can’t go any deeper, I hit this point, where she clicks. It doesn’t come with an extra sensation of pain or pleasure. The only sound I can compare it to is when you crack your knuckles.

I was determined to find out what was going on.

I talked to Lynn at length about this. It was our first conversation where we were openly acknowledging that I have a large sized penis which was weird for me, but she is a professional. She thought about it, and didn’t have the answer, nor had ever heard of this issue. She was intrigued and was determined to find the answer.

She brought it to the head of the University Sex Health department, a woman with advanced degrees and years of experience in sex health and she had no answers. They both then went to a seasoned Gyno, a woman who has seen more pussies than… well… she’s seen a lot of them. The end result Lynn said, “You’ve stumped us all”



Now this issue isn’t necessarily a problem. It doesn’t seem to cause her any pain or pleasure, it just happens. The doctor didn’t seem too worried about it, but said if her condition changes - swelling, residual pain, hematoma, bleeding - that I should bring her in.

Back in April, I posted a question on goaskalice.com - a wonderful site about sex health and issues, and never heard a response. They must not have known, and the panel of Sexperts today didn’t seem to know either. I’ll just have to let it rest for today.

I don’t have all the answers, but I’m sure that I’m not the only well-endowed man who has see this issue before. I don’t have an explanation, nor do I have any powerful insight. Today I simply document the events, and what I’ve learned. I’ll probably continue to look into this in the future.

Fuck Her Smarter, Not Harder.

As a man who is currently in a long-distance relationship, (as I'm sure some of you are as well) I'll be the first to admit that it can suck. Hopefully you are doing it for a girl thats worth it - I know I am - and in which case you don't see her as regularly as you normally would.

This means that your normal sex life is interrupted. For well endowed men, this can bring about an additional problem.

She's too tight.

So I'm told by my sex-health educator friend, Lynn: "The vagina is a muscle, and it can be stretched but if its not worked "stretched" for a while it tightens up.” Pretty simple right? You’d think so, but even for someone like me, who knows this, and has plenty of experience dealing with this, it’s still hard to practice this, especially when you are caught up in the heat of the moment.

The last time I saw my girlfriend was a month and a half ago, I’ll be seeing her again in a week and absolutely cannot wait. Our last weekend together though was a great learning experience. When we had sex, I thought that I was going slow, and letting her get used to my size, but I still could have done a better job. We still had sex five times in one weekend, but she was still sore for a few days after, and our number could have been a lot higher if I would have controlled myself better, and if she would have prepared herself better.

In a recent text conversation with my girl, she said “For the first two or three times go easy on me.” Her plea inspired me to come up with a new plan that I’ll treat as an experiment for our next meet up in seven days.

I asked her to start using her dildo on a more regular basis. With the idea of her starting to exercise her muscle and prepare it for action. (Plus, to me the idea of her fucking herself with her dildo, and massaging her clit with her vibrator, is a huge turn on.) On my end, I will treat the first few days together as a test of my sexual patience.

We always make sure she cums first, that’s a given. Then I start out going slow before I truly enter her.

This time, I’m going try to go extra extra slow. I’m going to inch myself into her slower than ever, I’ll push in, then let her relax as she adjusts to my size, then push more, then pause. I’m going to see just how long I can stretch this out for.

Usually when I try this, she gets turned on by the tease. The more I try to limit how much I slide in, the more she tries to push me deeper. The normal end result is by the time I make my first real thrust, she explodes in an orgasm. This is great, but the downside I’ve noticed when she cums, is the momentum we’re building is now lost as she convulses all over my dick.

My goal, is to coordinate the two of us to have a mutual orgasm without me ever fully penetrating her, if she gets close before I’m ready, I’ll pull out and let her cool off.

Normally I see my girl having an orgasm as me scoring points, the more points the better right? I don’t know, and that’s why I’m determined to find out.

The bottom line boys: This year, go easy on your girl for Christmas. It might just work out for the best.